Can I get a hug?
My day job is as a graduate student, working on my Ph.D. in Biochemistry.
Everything was lining up. We published a paper last week. One of my lab mates, Mel, graduated yesterday. The lab was looking good. Then…
My lab mate, my friend, Jen… was in a car accident last night. They hydroplaned and crashed off the highway into the trees. She got trapped in the car and was pronounced dead on the scene. Her husband is in the ICU here, he’ll be under observation for another day before being moved to a normal bed for a week. Then… he goes home to heal physically and start putting together the pieces of his brand new, shattered family.
She was going to have a son, Max, on her favorite musician, Bon Jovi’s birthday. She published her first scientific paper last week.
They say things happen for a reason… but right now, I don’t want to think there’s a reason for removing this wonderful, talented, vital person from the world. I don’t want to think there’s a reason that the world shouldn’t be made better by her presence, and her mind. Somehow, thinking that this was truly random, helps right now.
*hugglesnugglehugness* For you and for her husband. Shit . . . And of course there’s not a reason. Of course there’s not. Shit happens and we need hugs and then eventually we get better. That’s how it works.
I stumbled across your blog today, looking for info on spinning wheels… I attended a funeral last week for a friend who lost her battle with breast cancer. Then, two days ago, another funeral for a 59 day old premie… I sometime want to ask “why?” but realize there is something in trying times that causes people to reflect and make changes in their own lives. Witnessing the struggles of a friend battling cancer and the fight of a weak and dying infant for its next breath has given me a profound sense of gratitude. We learn, if we’re lucky, through the misfourtunes of others just how fortunate we are. Its a silent and gracious sacrifice some make that others may learn to live. My prayers are with Jen and her family – and of course, a special Roving Gnome.
You can ***SOOOO*** get a hug. I wish that weren’t all there was to offer. Damn.
I’m so sorry.
BIG HUG!!!!!! Ugh, life just sucks sometimes, but again, BIG HUG.
*hughughughughug*
This is very shitty.
More hugs, because you need them every day. ::hughughug::
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